A good place to start is to notice if you are tense. Often we can think we are relaxed when really we have just become used to being stressed!
So we’ll start with awareness.
Bring your awareness to your physical body. Is your jaw and mouth tight and tense Are your lips pursed? Are you shoulders raised slightly? Are you looking downward?
I catch myself many times a day holding a tense stance and it’s amazing how quickly you can feel better once you recognise how tight you are and then consciously release each part of your body. Often your mind follows suit with your physical body and you can experience a calmer state of mind by bringing awareness to your body first.
I start to lighten up by focusing on my physical presence: I loosen my jaw and let my mouth open slightly, moving my awareness to my shoulders, I move them around and let them fall into a relaxed, lowered position. Then I look upwards and let a small smile creep onto my face and look around. Sometimes I even gaze up toward the ceiling or the sky and then the final and most important step – I let out a big breath of air through my opened mouth. Ahhhhhhhhhhhh!
Everything is okay. I am okay.
You are okay.
You can change how you feel at any moment. Sometimes this feels harder than other times, but it is always true. You don’t have to be bounding with happiness, but when we can lighten up everything becomes easier.
Let’s welcome ease and joy into our day.
I choose to smile at myself and the world. What do you choose for yourself?