A little while ago I was away on holidays for a month. I know – a whole month! Not only was it a month without work, it was also a month without facebook, blogging, and internet.
A month without a virtual life.
Instead, I spend the time traveling around the South Island of New Zealand, and reflecting upon my life, how I spend my days and what brings me fulfillment in life.
I know it’s not feasible for a lot of people to take a month away from regular life, but if you can take a weekend, or even a day to sit quietly and spend some time with yourself, pondering what you want and what makes you happy, I promise you, your life will be better for it.
I spent time focusing on what I value most so I could get clear about why I’ve shaped my life the way I have, as well as to highlight what I should do more of and less of. I drilled down interests, activities and work that I find most fulfilling, and then refined it so only the essence was left.
For example, if I looked at my work with clients which brings me fulfillment then I kept asking, why? And why again. Until all that was left was an emotion, feeling or single word.
Another aspect which I looked into was relationships with people. For some time now I’ve been fascinated, intrigued and mesmorised by the concept of Oneness. I’ve meditated on it, received guidance and insight, and every part of Oneness and the study of it brings me such joy. But without digressing too much, this study of Oneness has made me realise how important – above all else – our relationships are. This meant that relationships made it high on the list. I termed it ‘connection’ and it came in, just under ‘love’ at number 2.
The reason I was doing all of this is to hold a greater understanding of myself, and if you’re able to work out the essence of what makes you feel fulfilled, loved and happy then you’re able to create your life around those things. Essentially a person who lives a rich, happy and meaningful life would most likely know what they value and be sure to tailor each day around them.
Therefore, if you have ‘connection’ on your list, then you would ensure you connect meaningfully with at least one other person everyday. If you hold ‘love’ high up on your values list, then you would connect into your heart energy every day, be kind and loving towards yourself, and so forth.
Having read this brief article what comes to mind that brings joy, meaning and fulfillment in your life? Is it contribution, helping others, love, giving, success, empathy? What others can you come up with?
Then once you have your list, review each one to determine what your definition of that value is. How do you know when it has been met?
Write down your top five, and keep it somewhere you can easily see it each day. What do you think your life would be like if you met 2-3 of your values each day? How fulfilled would you be?